Having spent some time with Keith’s Adele, I estimate that her maturity is about 4 to 5 years ahead of her chronological age. She’s perfectly at home having dinner with a couple her father’s age and held up her end of the conversation easily; even giving her Dad shit a few times which Stacey and I really enjoyed
I’d also say two other things. First, having raised two kids on an extended boat trip was a great experience for them and for us. Yes, it probably cost me my marriage to my first wife, but it was still worth it. The kids had many of the characteristics exhibited by Adele because they were primarily around adults most of the time and because everywhere they went they had to make new friends and get to know them. I have wonderful memories of sailing SAGA around in an anchorage with just the mainsail and my two kids hanging from the rigging trying to spot “Tiny Cloths”. The hail of “There! Daddy!! There!” When the spotted children’s cloths hanging from the lifelines, and off we’d go. We’d anchor nearby and my oldest would often just jump overboard and swim over, rapping on the hull and asking: “Permission to come aboard and meet your children.” Those were wonderful times.
Second, I think the root of much of what both Waldorf and sailing do to kids is that they both end up making the kids far more self reliant and self motivated. In both cases there is an expectation that one can learn a great deal from looking at the world, not just reading about it on-line or in a book. I have to admit I was raised by two people who felt exactly the same way, and I think it worked well. When one adds a solid dose of “you’re not better or worse than any other kid, don’t get all uppity”, then you’ve got a great kid. This has let me, and my kids, move between various social strata and easily learn from new experiences. As my grandfather said: “If you can’t learn something new from a conversation with someone, you’re a dolt.” The negative way of saying one can learn something from everyone. A lot of people in our culture simply don’t believe this or don’t have the self confidence to act on it.